To Senator Noynoy

16 Nov

better autistic copyAn Open Letter to Senator Noynoy Aquino from a Mother of an Autistic Child

(Originally published in Herword.com on November 16, 2009)

Dear Senator Noynoy,

Up until you announced your candidacy, I had given up hope in the election process of 2010. While I have exercised my voting rights judiciously in every election since I turned eighteen, years of ineffective, dishonest governing have made me jaded and worn me out of any shred of hope.

And then you came along, and for the first time in many, many years, I felt I had something to look forward to. This child of the Marcos era, who slept through much of her adolescence in an apolitical and apathetic slumber, who resisted the call for the revolution in 1986 because she was too busy studying, is putting her hopes for honest change squarely on your shoulders. I pray for a change that will come in my lifetime and continue in my children’s and their children’s lifetimes.

Your popularity does not surprise me. I share the sentiments of many people who have felt indignant yet helpless at the shameless and callous displays of behavior of our present government. But while your popularity may help you in the course of the campaign, it has also opened you to vicious attacks from your opponents.

Your critics claim that you are autistic, and as any neurotypical person is wont to react, you have vehemently denied it, calling it “malicious and baseless.”

Allow me to say outright that I do not believe you have autism. I may not be a diagnostician, but having lived with autism every single day for the last fifteen years of my life, I  know what autism is firsthand. I have witnessed it up close, lived with all its blessings, and survived almost all its challenges. What I know of it, I know not only from books, from the Net, or from research and published papers. What I know of it comes from real life. As an advocate for autism, I am proud to be part of the large community of families of Filipinos with autism, which at last count, numbers close to half a million affected individuals. That being said, let me posit a question: If you were one, what is absolutely wrong with it?

Autism is a spectrum of conditions ranging from the mildly affected to the most severely impaired. Common to this spectrum, however, are varying degrees of deficits in social relatedness, behavior, and communication. My son Alphonse, at 15, remains on the far end of the bell curve of “normal.” He is nonverbal, continues to require assistance for many of the activities of daily living, and has the cognitive understanding of a five-year-old child. You, on the other hand, are well-educated, highly conversant and intelligent; your cognitive abilities are certainly not in question. While these two pictures comprise the polar ends of the extent and breadth of a highly complicated spectrum (again, I reiterate, we are simply assuming for the sake of argument that you belong to this spectrum), they are not totally incompatible. (To wit, there are individuals with different degrees of autism already enrolled in some of our country’s best universities.)

Autism is difficult and challenging, and to those of us who love persons with autism, it is a rollercoaster ride every single day. Is it a disability? It is, but it also is not; it depends on how you look at it. And yet, when you really think about it, ravenous greed is a much harder disorder to treat, as are immorality, shamelessness, corruption, and vice. I have heard of recovery in autism, but diseases of the soul are almost always incurable.

If being autistic means not being able to lie, then by all means, I should be proud to say I am autistic.

If being autistic means not being able to cheat and rig elections, then call me autistic.

It being autistic means not being able to steal, to use public funds for personal gain while the country wallows in poverty, then I am staunchly autistic.

If being autistic means satisfaction with what one has, if it means a characteristic lack of greed and materialism, then I count myself autistic.

If it means not being envious and not judging people based on looks, money, connections, or pogi points, then, yes, I am autistic.

So the next time someone calls you autistic and you feel slighted, perhaps you may wish to reply to them this way instead: “Thank you for calling me autistic. To me, autism does not make one more or less of a person. It does not make one more or less of a man. It just makes one autistic. I am sorry to disappoint you that I am not, but I hope to be able to live up to the honesty people with autism expect every day. I would much rather be autistic than be corrupt. Better autistic than be unable to understand what it means to be a public servant. Thank you very much.”

The day you do, you have championed the cause of the least able of our people. And for what it’s worth, you still have my vote.

Sincerely yours,
Pinky Ong-Cuaycong

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12 Responses to “To Senator Noynoy”

  1. Teofy Peñaflor November 16, 2009 at 2:58 pm #

    All that is written in this letter is true.. Really it is better to be autistic than corrupt. It is better to be autistic than being untrue to yourself and to the people who trusted you to lead our country.

  2. jeannette rueras November 16, 2009 at 3:01 pm #

    wow!very well conveyed, mabuhay ka madam at para kay noynoy, you have my vote….

  3. Erick Reyes November 16, 2009 at 9:40 pm #

    Thank you Ms. Pinky for sharing this. It’s heartwarming, and yet it speaks true also of a genuine and honest leader like Noynoy.

    Tuloy lang po natin ang laban!

  4. johnrey November 17, 2009 at 5:05 am #

    sen noy, we believe in you and you are my bet!

  5. Admirer November 17, 2009 at 7:18 pm #

    incredibly well-written article. and yes, you are very right!!!

  6. FritzD. Angeles November 18, 2009 at 12:27 pm #

    Two thumbs up!

  7. NinJas! November 18, 2009 at 6:43 pm #

    two thumbs and two big toes up!

  8. Carrie de Vera-Torres November 19, 2009 at 2:43 pm #

    Bravo. Thank you Ms Pinky for your blog. I concur. I agree. I am a “special mom” myself of twin autistic teenagers (17y). I realized after more than ten years of dealing with ASD (autism spectrum disorder), Ignorant people label, discriminate, discredit & take pity on the autistic individuals. If you know one, if you interact with one or even related to one, you know why they are special… they don’t know how to lie nor cheat, they are focused, they are loving & have a child’s heart. They are genuinely God’s gift to us.

    I went to school with Senator Noy Aquino, I got to know him better in our student council. And in all that time, I can firmly say he is NOT AUTISTIC.

    He didn’t repeat his words like echolalia, he didn’t walk in tiptoes, he didn’t talk to himself nor have an imaginary friend, nor a security “toy”; he didn’t run around like the energizer bunny nor display excessive signs of OC (obsessive compulsive) behavior but he loved to eat; play billiards, he was pretty much a quiet guy, shy yet happy & spontaneous around friends. He is NOT AUTISTIC.

    But even if there is an autistic presidentiable…let’s say high functioning or even savant… SO WHAT!
    The virtues of an autist is what we need in a president.

    • Steve Cua November 21, 2009 at 10:04 pm #

      Very well said, classmate Carrie. I too was a classmate of Noy (that’s what we called him in College) as are many more out there. I have not only had group studies with the guy, I have even been most privileged to have been served lunch by Citizen Cory after group study at their place. Noy is definitely not autistic.

      Poison Pens dispensing demolition jobs will call those ahead in the surveys whatever they want but people like us who have known Noy from way back know better and it’s our duty (to God and Country) to tell the public.

      Kudos to you two, Carrie and Pinky, for championing the cause of the autistic and treading the path less travelled.

  9. gary November 24, 2009 at 2:10 am #

    As a batchmate of Noynoy since he was 5 y/o at the Ateneo ( all the way to his college years) & as a Psychiatrist (currently practicing here in the US); I can attest to the fact that he may not be physically gifted like an athlete, (some call him ‘lampa’), but he is certainly NOT autistic

  10. Tanto Bardianto December 2, 2009 at 6:53 pm #

    Thanks for the info friend

  11. Cristina Feibel December 6, 2009 at 10:16 am #

    Thank you, Ms Ong-Cuaycong, for heartfelt thoughts so well conveyed.

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